Imagine that as a child you became separated from your parents and were lost for several hours in a crowded mall. The fear was paralyzing. There was a tightness in the chest that felt as if it might choke you. Even now, the same feeling comes back every time you worry. You try to push the feeling away by any number of things: overeating, drugs, alcohol, burying yourself in work, exercising excessively, shopping, watching tv - anything to distract your mind and numb out.
It was the summer of 1933, and Albert Ellis was quite angry at himself because he could not talk to women.
“I was born and reared to be shy and scared.” says Ellis of his upbringing. “Throughout my childhood and teens I had a real social phobia."
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