Amy awoke from an afternoon nap on the sofa to a stranger’s face staring down at her. Before she could utter a sound, he gagged her, raped her, and left her for dead. When Amy found the strength to crawl to her neighbor’s apartment, she had to explain who she was, having been beaten beyond recognition. Over the next several years, Amy would attempt to regain control of her life. However, the fear and anguish she experienced on a daily basis would keep her from finishing college, having the family she always dreamed of, or even being able to live on her own. Amy is one of millions of Americans who suffer from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) after experiences such as sexual assault, combat, or responding to violent emergencies.
The superego is often equated with “conscience.” This is unfortunate, since the guidance of the early superego is often unreliable, being based on unreasonable notions of right and wrong that were learned from our parents. Though these may have been appropriate for a child, frequently they are no longer useful for us as adults.
Our human life occupies a very small space in this vast universe. Sometimes we think we need to do or be something special to make our lives meaningful - achieve success, have lots of unique experiences, identify with a specific religion...it’s not true. It’s the little things in life that give it meaning. Laughter, good conversation, delicious food, great sex, a beautiful sunset, a good movie, a cold beer on a hot day, watching your children play, or that feeling you get when you have helped another human being in need.
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Mystical experiences can allow us to feel an oceanic state of oneness, a connectedness to others, to the planet, and to ourselves in ways that we may not normally experience. However, afterward it can leave us feeling even more isolated and lonely in comparison.
Anxiety is a slow evolving trait that was useful to human beings at some point but is no longer as necessary now that lions aren’t lurking around the corner. We are dealing with a natural defense process that needs to be witnessed and acknowledged rather than fought against and discouraged. Anxiety skews our perceptions, making us believe that everything is very serious, dramatic, even life-threatening.
It might seem that the person you want to become has to do with how other people see you. How others see you actually has more to do with how you feel about yourself. What we experience in our life is a mirror to what is happening inside of us. Our thoughts and beliefs directly influence how our lives unfold.
As human beings, our core struggle is that we want things to be different than they actually are. Neurotic struggle is our continued effort to resist what is happening. We want to be happy; we don’t want pain; we want to feel good; we don’t want heartbreak.
There is an unavoidable, tragic aspect to life. We all suffer. We experience the loss of a loved one, we feel physical and emotional pain, loneliness, and longing, just to name a few. The good news is that we have the ability to relieve our suffering, because suffering is a state of mind.
Falling in love can feel like we have become possessed, like we have drunk a magic potion, or been stung by Cupid’s bow. We project ideals onto our partner. We think they are the kindest, most generous, most wonderful being in the world. We direct a passion towards them that feels intoxicating. This is our passion for discovering our inner being, our essence. This passion is superimposed over our external partner. In our search for wholeness we love another human being because we are “in love with being in love”.
Negative emotions are not bad. There is actually no such thing as a bad emotion. Emotions are all just sensations that course through our body. We judge things in our mind. Our ego says something is bad and our thoughts cloud the truth.
More and more, we are reading about the way gut health is directly related to mental and physical health.
When you think of yoga, what words come to mind? If they are stretching, flexibility, and strength, you might feel discouraged if you can't even reach your toes. Five years ago, I had trouble touching my toes - in fact, some mornings putting on my shoes was a struggle due to back pain.
For centuries, philosophers have been intrigued by the search for the self. Is there an individual self who is experiencing things; making decisions; thinking thoughts? And what does the self consist of?
I love stories. I heard this story the other night, and although I don’t know how accurate it is, I loved it for the way it made me feel. It’s a story about how the poet Rumi met his teacher.
Lower back pain is one of the most common chronic ailments in America. This is partly because of all the sitting we do. One of the consequences of sitting is shortened psoas muscles. This can cause pulling on the lower spine, leading to chronic back pain.
How many times have you heard, "just take some deep breaths"? What does this actually do?
Losing weight is more complicated than calories in/calories out. We now know that given the same exact food, one person can gain weight and another won't. Much of this has to do with our microbiomes.
What are our microbiomes? These are the billions of micro-organisms that live on and in our body. We acquire them at birth and they change throughout our lives depending on our environment. The human microbiome includes the genes of the microbes. Why is this significant? Because they outnumber our genes by 100 to 1, and while our genome is fixed, we have quite a bit of control over our microbiome.
These billions of organisms that our body hosts have an incredible capacity to influence how many calories we extract from food, our insulin and hormone production, and even what we crave. We used to think weight gain/loss was as simple as calories in versus calories out. We now know it is much more complicated than this.
Our culture measures success with money and power. What if instead, we measured success by our relationships, our ability to give of ourselves, and our level of happiness and contentment? We can begin to re-evaluate our definition of success, but first we need to take a look at one of the most common factors affecting our relationships, our health, and our level of well being. Our quality of sleep is directly correlated to all of these things.
"Let food be thy medicine. Let medicine be thy food." – Hippocrates
One of the biggest scientific discoveries of the last 30 years is that food isn’t just energy, it’s information. It provides instructions for everything that’s going on in your body. You can change your gut flora, your hormones, your gene expression, your immune system, and so much more. It has a direct effect on every function, either for the good or for the bad, depending on what you’re eating.
We all have both a feminine and masculine side. Yin and Yang. Carl Jung termed it the anima and animus. Females have an inner male side and males an inner female.
I came across this book recently, and it's so fantastic, I had to share it!
The law of attraction has been the source of countless books but is too often explained in a meta-physical way that can be a little abstract.
Carl Jung said, "Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding about ourselves." Most of us know the power of projections. Whatever inner force, emotion, or energy we have not acknowledged, becomes a kind of demon. I mean a demon in the experiential sense - it becomes problematic for us. These emotions that we disavow are the same ones we project onto others.
We might not make the time to meditate each day, but everyone makes time to eat. If we look at eating as an opportunity for mindfulness, we can experience food as not only a way to nourish and love ourselves, but each meal can become a time for enhanced awareness, gratitude, and joy.
Solitary confinement is considered the worst punishment in high security prisons. Most would rather live among murders and rapists than spend a significant amount of time alone. How should we interpret this? Anyone who has attempted a silent retreat knows how excruciating it can be to sit with our own thoughts for an extended period of time.
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