Falling in love can feel like we have become possessed, like we have drunk a magic potion, or been stung by Cupid’s bow. We project ideals onto our partner. We think they are the kindest, most generous, most wonderful being in the world. We direct a passion towards them that feels intoxicating. This is our passion for discovering our inner being, our essence. This passion is superimposed over our external partner. In our search for wholeness we love another human being because we are “in love with being in love”.
We all have both a feminine and masculine side. Yin and Yang. Carl Jung termed it the anima and animus. Females have an inner male side and males an inner female.
As we grow up we tend to pick up beliefs about needing to be a certain way, or do certain things, in order to be loved.
Being in a committed relationship can be one of the most rewarding things we
can experience; it can also be one of the most painful. I'm sure I'm not alone when I
say fighting and arguing with our significant other can leave us feeling frustrated, hurt, and angry. How can we deal with situations like this without ruining our relationships?
In the past going to therapy was pejorative. Fortunately, we are now living in a time where it is considered cool to be working on yourself. By learning more effective coping strategies, we can reduce stress and feel more content with our lives.